In this enlightening episode, Dr. Amber Thornton dives deep into the multifaceted journey of millennial parenting and the vital role of self-regulation. Join us as Dr. Thornton shares her wisdom, emphasizing that parenting is an ever-evolving process filled with mistakes, learning, and growth.

In this episode of the podcast, Tiffany recalls an incident from the early days of her relationship with Moe, where she felt a pang of jealousy at a club when she saw Moe dancing—what she perceived as juking—with another woman. The situation stirred up feelings of insecurity and possessiveness, leading Tiffany to momentarily disengage from the moment and later confront Moe about the incident. 

The hosts reflect on how this event, though initially uncomfortable, ultimately opened up a conversation about insecurities within relationships. As they delve deeper into the topic, Moe and Tiffany discuss the importance of self-reflection and communication when dealing with insecurities. They share their journey of understanding and trust, which has allowed them to view similar situations with humor and confidence.

Get ready to dive deep into the captivating love story of Gennia and Lenny, two souls who found each other in the most unexpected of places—a bar. From their electrifying first encounter to navigating the twists and turns of building a lasting relationship, Gennia and Lenny share their invaluable insights on trusting the process, crafting your own love story, and embracing authenticity in every moment.

Join us as they open up about the challenges they've faced, the lessons they've learned, and the transformative power of personal growth and intentional partnership. From instant chemistry to the journey of getting engaged, Gennia and Lenny's story is a beacon of hope and inspiration for anyone seeking love and connection in today's world.

Join us as we embark on a journey with the incredible Braxton T Fleming, a Black trans man whose trailblazing path has led him to Shark Tank history as the founder of Stealth Bros Co. Braxton opens up about the concept of divine timing, sharing how it's guided him to embrace the present and trust the process of life. His mission to unite communities and champion equality shines through, as he discusses the integral role of fatherhood and his dedication to spreading love and positive energy.

Connect with Braxton: @sire.brax + @stealthbrosco + stealthbrosco.com

Join the dynamic duo, Jamilla and Que, from the viral Two-mom family @JamillaandQue as they take us on a rollercoaster of emotions and laughter. How do they maintain a strong relationship while being in the spotlight of the internet? The seasoned LGBTQ+ advocates delve into the realness of family, parenting, and being visible role models in today's digital world. Get ready for candid conversations sprinkled with some sarcastic wit as they share their thoughts on growing relationships and making a positive impact.

Remember, being an influencer isn't all glitz and glamour—especially when you've got bedtime stories to tell!

YouTube: youtube.com/@JamillaandQue

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamillaandque/

TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@jamillaandque

Join us as we sit down with the brilliant Dr. Jennifer Litner, a seasoned sexologist and therapist, for a candid exploration of sex therapy beyond the bedroom. Jen brings her decade of experience to the table, shedding light on the often-overlooked emotional aspects of sexual wellness. Whether it's debunking common myths or offering a fresh perspective on what it means to be sexually healthy, Jen's insights are sure to enlighten and challenge your preconceptions. From the importance of integrating care with other healthcare professionals to redefining sex positivity, our conversation reveals the profound impact of open communication and understanding in cultivating a healthy sexual relationship. We also take a moment to explore the evolving landscape of monogamy, pornography, and the broader implications of sexual identity, inviting listeners to consider their own boundaries and beliefs in the context of their intimate partnerships.

Connect with Dr. Jennifer Litner, PhD, LMFT, CST, CST-S

www.embracesexualwellness.com

https://www.instagram.com/embracesexualwellness/

https://www.facebook.com/embracesexwellness

https://www.linkedin.com/company/embrace-sexual-wellness

Join us this week as we honor Black Maternal Health Week, featuring the remarkable Sabia Wade. Our discussion opens up about the urgent crisis in Black maternal health and reproductive justice, shedding light on the disparities and challenges faced by Black birthing individuals. Sabia, a multi-talented full-spectrum doula and advocate for Black luxury, brings a wealth of knowledge and passion to our conversation. We tackle everything from the importance of authenticity in personal success to the legacy we leave behind, and how individuality shapes our lives and impacts the communities we serve.

Connect with Sabia Wade on Instagram @sabiawade

Website: http://www.sabiawade.com

When Pace and Sam first crossed paths in college, little did they know that their bond would blossom into a formidable partnership marked by love, advocacy, and the shared dream of parenthood. They join us today, not just as a two-mom family from Tennessee, but as beacons for the Black queer community. Their voices ring with truth as they lay bare the trials of social media pressures, the search for genuine connection, and the celebration of each unique milestone that has punctuated their journey together. Their candid dialogue envelops us in the warmth of their narrative and serves as a reminder that the path to creating a family is as diverse as the individuals who walk it.

Yep, Two Women Can Make A Baby E-Book https://the-paces.sellfy.store/

IG/TikTok/Youtube - @CallUsThePaces

Gender Transition, a journey of identity and self-expression, can be as daunting as it is liberating. That's why I, Tiffany, sat down with Moe Ari, whose story of transition from a non-binary perspective truly embodies the beauty of self-discovery. Together, we peel back the layers of what it means to evolve personally while navigating the broader concept of transition that resonates with us all. As Moe Ari opens up about their life as a Black transgender individual, we're reminded of the complex tapestry of identity that each of us weaves.

The conversation takes us through the significance of solidarity in the face of societal challenges and the triumph of living authentically at the intersection of various identities.

In a deeply personal and enlightening episode, SK and Myland Stokes Kennedy share their remarkable journey as a queer couple who found each other within the confines of a church community. SK and MyLin’s narrative is not only about their evolution as partners but also about the joys and trials of co-parenting, the deliberate choices they make for their family's happiness, and the daily work required to maintain a strong, loving relationship.

MyLin + SK on Instagram + TikTok + Youtube : @stokeskennedy

MyLin on Instagram: @ThisIsMyLin

SK: @Esskayyy + @hellagoodpod (SK’s Podcast)

Could rekindling everyday romance be the secret to a love that lasts? Join us, Moe Ari and Tiffany, as we unravel the tapestry of long-term love, sharing the intimate ways we keep the flame burning brightly. We're not just talking about monumental displays of affection; our conversation celebrates the quiet poetry in the mundane—a touch, a glance, or the morning ritual of brewing coffee. By weaving personal stories with practical insights, we illuminate how love's language is not just spoken on anniversaries but is whispered in the smallest of gestures.

Join us on a heartfelt journey with the remarkable Mia Cooley, founder and CEO of xHood, as we explore the transformative power of new beginnings and the significance of community. Mia shares her personal philosophy on the infinite opportunities to reset our lives. Listen in as we discuss the challenges and victories of parenting within the black and LGBTQ+ communities, and learn about the inspiring evolution of the xHood platform, which has become a beacon of empowerment for black queer parents.

xHood Website: https://www.parentxhood.com/

xHood Instagram + Facebook: parentxhood

Mia Cooley on Instagram + Facebook: TheBigMommaMia

Join us on this heartfelt journey where we navigate the delicate dance of crushes within committed relationships. Listen in as we openly discuss the natural phenomenon of feeling attracted to others, even when we're in monogamous or non-monogamous partnerships. Our very own Tiffany bravely shares her personal encounters with crushes over the years, sparking a candid conversation about the importance of transparency and communication. We dissect the intricacies of these feelings, from fleeting attractions to more profound interests, and how they can actually strengthen the bonds of trust and authenticity in our relationships. Whether it's the excitement of a new crush or the deeper exploration of our desires, we embrace the complexities of love and connection.

Join us on our latest journey as we explore the nuanced differences between self-awareness and self-accountability, particularly in the context of making apologies. We open up about our personal growth and the pivotal moments that taught us the importance of not just recognizing our mistakes, but also taking concrete steps to prevent them in the future. Listen in as we reflect on how our apologies have evolved from mere words to actions backed by genuine change, and how parenthood and the pandemic have further shaped our understanding of what it means to truly own our actions within our relationships. Emotions can be complex, and in this conversation, we unpack the tendency to hide vulnerability behind anger. We discuss the importance of owning and accepting our feelings, not only for our healing but also for the health of our relationships. Hear us delve into the transformative power of empathy, vulnerability, and honest communication, and learn how these can foster a deeper connection with our partners. Our candid discussion reveals how validating emotions rather than dismissing them can create a space for more meaningful interactions and mutual growth.

Celebrate the profound milestones and tender moments that have turned us into the epitome of #LoveGoals, as we mark our five-year anniversary. Our story is not just about love—it's about the transformative power of belonging and authenticity, the kind that only blooms when two contrasting worlds collide. Tiffany's boundless energy and my initial reticence forged an unexpected alchemy in Orlando back in 2012, setting the stage for a friendship that would defy distance and deepen into something much more. As we unravel the threads of our relationship, from those early days to coming out and beyond, you'll witness how vulnerability becomes the cornerstone of enduring companionship.

Embark with us on a heartfelt odyssey that's taken us from the familiarity of South Carolina to the vibrant streets of Chicago, and finally to our home in Atlanta, stitching together a life rich with celebration, adversity, and growth. Our wedding in the Dominican Republic was a cultural tapestry, honoring our African heritage and queer identities, and every step—from our engagement to the birth of our family—has been an illustration of love's boundless capacity to evolve. Join us as we share the laughter, tears, and triumphs that have shaped us, and perhaps, in the reflection of our journey, you'll find the sparks that ignite your own path to becoming love goals.

Unlock the secrets to a memorable first date that paves the way for a potential future romance! On this journey, we've got you covered with expert advice from our Host Moe Ari, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the Love and Connection Expert at Hinge, ensuring your dating game is both authentic and impeccably mannered. This episode is all about finding that sweet spot—where genuine self-presentation meets the finesse of a well-executed date plan. You'll learn the importance of feeling your best to leave a lasting impression, and the subtle courtesies that can make or break the potential for a second meetup. From personal hygiene to the thoughtful touches that show you care, we're equipping you with the tools to approach dating with grace and self-awareness.

Bring levity and respect to your dating adventures as we discuss the role of humor in sparking connection without crossing lines. Discover the importance of respecting personal boundaries and showing genuine interest through active listening and non-verbal cues. This episode isn't just talk; we'll share actionable tips inspired by Hinge's distraction-free dating guide, and the power of a follow-up to secure that next encounter. Whether you're fresh to the dating scene or simply seeking a refreshed perspective, tune in for an engaging conversation that promises to reshape your approach to respectful and successful dating.

Could unlocking the secrets of nonviolent communication be the missing link to deeper connections in your relationships? Join us as we journey through the soul-enriching practice of NVC, pioneered by Marshall Rosenberg, and peel back the layers on how it can revolutionize your interactions with others. With personal anecdotes and revelations, we delve into the art of intentionality in conversation, and the profound impact of building a communication style rooted in empathy and compassion. You're not just listening to a discussion; you're stepping into a transformative experience that aligns perfectly with our mission to embody the very essence of hashtag love goals.

Join us as we reflect on the profound transition from the 'me' to the 'we' in relationships! Hear our candid discussion on the importance of maintaining individuality within a relationship, especially through significant life transitions. We examine the milestones that have cemented our bond, such as moving in together, top surgery, name changes, and the journey through IVF and pregnancy. The episode highlights the intricate dance of preserving one's sense of self while fostering a united front as a couple and, eventually, as a family. With a focus on open communication and community support, we wrap up with insights on the necessity of balancing togetherness with personal interests and sacred spaces. Tune in for an intimate look at our own relationship evolution and take away valuable insights for nurturing your own partnerships.

Join us on a heartfelt exploration as Tiffany shares her transformative spiritual journey as a black queer woman. This episode takes you through the intersection of identity, faith, and love, resonating with the universal desire for belonging and authenticity. Listen in as Tiffany opens up about her inspiring photoshoot, which sets the stage for a wider discussion on ancestral spirituality within the African American community.

We tackle the complex challenges of reconciling traditional religious teachings with personal beliefs, especially in the context of the LGBTQ+ community, and how Tiffany courageously steps out of the 'spiritual closet' to embrace her true self. Embark on a candid conversation about the role of the black church in shaping our early spiritual lives and the poignant struggles when one's evolving identity seems at odds with established doctrines.

We reflect on the emotional toll of seeking acceptance within religious spaces, sharing the difficult choice to leave the church in pursuit of an inclusive spiritual home. This chapter is an affirmation of the search for an authentic connection to faith, highlighting the emotional liberation and growth that comes from finding a community that embraces us fully, in all our complexity.

As the calendar flips to a new page, we're all too familiar with the firework burst of resolutions that fizzle out long before the year's first quarter. But what if we could transform those bright but fleeting sparks into a steady, warm glow that lights our way throughout the year? Join us as we navigate the nuanced terrain of setting New Year's goals with intention, planning, and a dash of daring. Instead of the usual resolutions that gather dust, we'll guide you through crafting goals that resonate with your core values and true desires, avoiding the trap of low aspirations or the echo chamber of societal pressures.

Every family has that one holiday tradition that sticks out in memory—the one where Uncle Joe always burns the turkey, or where grandma's secret punch recipe turns the evening into a laughter-fueled affair. Our latest episode is a heartfelt homage to those moments, capturing the essence of holiday celebrations from baking sessions filled with the sweet scent of cookies to the uproarious joy of games and crafts. We're taking you through an exploration of the diverse customs that brighten the season, sharing our own family favorites, and discussing how these rituals create a sense of belonging and authenticity. It's all about the simple pleasures that deepen our connections and make the holidays memorable.

Join us as we throw back the curtains on a magical movie night and recount the competitive spirit of Sandy's (Moe’s Mom) Christmas games. Imagine curling up with a classic film or engaging in good-natured family feuds that keep everyone on their toes. We don't just talk about our own rituals; we dive into the essence of creating memorable experiences that bring people together. From the bustling kitchen prep with all hands on deck to the communal joy found in simple pleasures, this episode is an invitation to make the season your own. So, pour yourself some punch, cut yourself some slack, and let our stories inspire your holiday spirit.

Join Moe Ari and Tiffany as we unpack the complex dynamics of family during the holiday season. Listen in as we explore the concept of chosen family, particularly for those who might feel disconnected from their biological families during this time of celebration. We address the pain points, disappointments, and challenges that can arise from families of origin, prompting a redefinition of what 'family' means. With special emphasis on LGBTQIA+ individuals, we shed light on the need to dismantle harmful societal messages about family, while highlighting the beauty and expansiveness of cultivating a chosen family that celebrates and accepts you for who you are.

In this engaging episode, we also explore how to navigate tricky family dynamics during the holidays. From estrangement and loss to issues surrounding acceptance of one's sexual orientation or gender identity, we touch on a myriad of scenarios that can lead to feelings of disconnect. Setting boundaries, making intentional choices about who to share space with, and learning to embrace differences within families are among the topics we delve into. We believe in the power of acceptance and understanding, and we aim to arm our listeners with tools to foster these within their own families, biological or chosen.

Lastly, we shift gears to a lighter topic - potlucks! Listen to us as we share our personal experiences and preferences with potlucks, including our love for store-bought items and aversion to casseroles. We also discuss alternative ways to celebrate with chosen families beyond traditional gatherings. Sprinkled with humor and heart, this episode is an invitation to redefine family, embrace diversity, and navigate the holiday season with love, understanding, and intentionality. Join us and let's journey together towards becoming our own #lovegoals.

What if the holiday season, a time filled with joy and celebration, also brings a wave of grief and loss? How do we navigate this tricky landscape? Join us, Moe Ari and Tiffany, on an emotional journey as we share our experiences with grief during the holiday season, reflecting on the impact of losing loved ones and dealing with challenges like health issues, job loss, financial struggles, and more. This isn't just about death but mourning the loss of what once was - an old friendship, a dream, a lifestyle.

Grief is a unique and personal experience, often manifesting in unexpected ways. Amid the holiday cheer, it can feel isolating and overwhelming. We explore these emotions, sharing lessons from our own experiences and offering insights on how to support those who might be wrestling with similar feelings. We discuss the power of creative outlets, the importance of acknowledging our grief, and the need to be sensitive toward others who might be going through a tough time this season.

In the end, it's all about love - love for oneself and love for others. As we extend our warm wishes for the holiday season, we want to remind you that you're never alone in your grief. We urge you to take care of yourself and be understanding and patient, both with yourself and others around you. Remember to rate and review our podcast, and please reach out with any questions or suggested topics for future episodes. We're here for you, and we're all in this together.

On this special holiday episode of the Be Your Own Love Goals podcast, we're taking on an often overlooked topic - being single during the holidays. Joined by our fabulous co-hosts, Moe Ari and Tiffany, we unpack the realities, challenges, and unique joys that can come with being unattached during this season. Listen in as we explore how holiday romantic comedies can evoke feelings of grief and loneliness for single folks, share our personal favorite holiday movies (and why we love them even when they're sad), and discuss the pressures that often come with traditional holiday activities and expectations.

We also get honest about the not-so-festive side of the season, like invasive questions from relatives about relationships and fertility, the impact of social media posts flaunting seemingly perfect couples and families, and the need for representation of black joy in holiday movies. But it's not all doom and gloom! We share practical tips on approaching conversations with single loved ones, advocating for oneself, and creating a sense of joy and celebration that doesn't hinge on having a partner.

Finally, we tackle a listener's dilemma about inviting an ex to spend the holidays with their family, reminding everyone of the importance of setting boundaries and open communication. We even touch on expanding the definition of family to include close friends and ex-partners who have become like family.

The episode wraps up with a preview of an upcoming conversation on grief during the holidays, a festive game of "truth or truth," and our usual reminder that, single or not, you are loved and your own #lovegoals. So, whether you're single, taken, or somewhere in between, tune in for a holiday episode that promises to be as warm, comforting, and insightful as a mug of hot cocoa by the fire.

Are the holidays leaving you feeling more 'bah humbug' than 'ho ho ho'? Join us, Moe Ari and Tiffany, as we shine a light on this often-overlooked aspect of the holiday season. We lay bare our personal struggles with the financial and emotional strains that come with creating a magical holiday experience for our loved ones, especially for our daughter, Nova. We also touch upon the added pressure of juggling different family traditions and the challenge of creating our own. Through it all, we emphasize the importance of being present and living in the moment.

Have you ever felt the weight of loneliness amidst the merry clinking of holiday glasses? We explore this poignant facet of holiday stress as we delve into the complexities of managing multiple traditions. The financial and emotional toll, the struggle to balance family traditions, and the loneliness that could arise from the lack of holiday celebrations or distant family members - we discuss it all. We also recommend setting a budget and considering alternative gift-giving strategies to alleviate some of these stressors.

But wait, there's more. We address the unique holiday stress experienced by queer individuals. From the anxious anticipation of family reunions to the isolation from a lack of acceptance, we share real-life experiences and offer some coping mechanisms. We discuss the importance of allies in buffering uncomfortable situations and providing much-needed support. We wrap up with a talk on self-care, setting intentions, and maintaining relationships during the holiday hullabaloo. Don't miss this enlightening conversation. Tune in and share your thoughts with us on social media or Spotify. After all, aren't the holidays all about sharing and connecting?

Ever wondered how to navigate the complexities of introducing your significant other to your family during the holidays? We've covered you in this episode as we share personal stories, tips, and insights on ensuring this introduction goes smoothly. We tackle the butterflies in your stomach, the flood of questions from curious relatives, and the importance of creating a shared narrative with your partner.

Let's face it - cultural differences in relationships can be challenging, especially during family gatherings. We dive headfirst into this topic, exploring how to prepare your partner for customs that might be unfamiliar to them. We also share our experiences with large family environments and discuss ways to make your significant other feel like they belong. Trust us; communication is the key!

Finally, we talk about Thanksgiving - the food, the traditions, and how to make it enjoyable for everyone involved. We explore avoiding potential discomfort and ensuring your partner feels included in your family's traditions. We wrap up the episode by expressing our gratitude and emphasizing the importance of love. Remember to rate, review, subscribe to our podcast on Apple Podcasts, and follow us on Instagram for more updates.

Ever wondered what it means to be in a non-monogamous or polyamorous relationship? Are you curious about the distinctions between monogamy as we traditionally understand it and the various alternative relationship structures that exist? Join us for a lively and enlightening exploration into these complex relationship dynamics. We're getting real about multiple relationships, demystifying the misconceptions, and highlighting the critical role of consent, honesty, and open communication. We're also taking on your most pressing questions, providing guidance from our personal experiences navigating these unique partnerships.

Are you dealing with jealousy in a non-monogamy setup or contemplating a threesome within your relationship? We're right here to guide you through the emotional labyrinth. We share strategies on setting boundaries and managing jealousy, offering insights on how to maintain emotional equilibrium when envy surfaces. We even respond to a listener's query about broaching the subject of a threesome, stressing on the need to understand discomfort, identify its root, and communicate effectively with your partner. We also emphasize the importance of defining expectations, establishing boundaries, and fostering trust in all kinds of relationships, monogamous or not. Grab a seat, open your mind, and join us in this enlightening discussion - it's time to explore the diverse landscape of love and relationships!

Have you ever stopped to consider that you might just be someone's love goal? We did, which led us on a journey we're excited to share with you. We draw back the veil on the 'Be Your Own Love Goals' concept, challenging you to step beyond societal relationship molds and create ones that reflect your unique life journey. You, yes, you, are already a goal to someone out there, so why not aspire to be the best version of you?

On our journey, we also stumbled upon the joy of defining our own success and the unique contentment of providing for our loved ones. We chat about balancing the traditional roles we find ourselves in with our independence. Our discussion tackles the inherent value and happiness that comes from being your own love goals. Plus, we dive into the therapeutic nature of creating a nurturing home environment and the powerful role of gratitude in attracting more blessings into our lives.

We wrap up our chat with lessons on aspiration, inspiration, and relationships. We explore how to encourage others to be their best selves without imposing our expectations. We talk about teaching children emotional autonomy and how to navigate the harsh reality of dishonesty in relationships. So why join us on this journey of self-discovery and relationship-building? We promise it will be worth your while. Tune in now!

Remember your first love? The fairy tale weddings, the happily ever after, the fantasies we all grew up with? We're shaking things up on this special Be Your Own #LoveGoals Podcast episode. Moe Ari and Tiffany dive into non-traditional marriage structures, sharing their personal experiences and how their diverse upbringings and cultural heritage have shaped our perceptions of matrimony. Prepare for a refreshing perspective on marriage and family creation outside the norm that might challenge your beliefs.

Ever wondered why marriage? What does it mean to different people? It’s a complex question, and we’re getting down to the heart of it. We enlighten you on everything from the legalities involved in marriage, the richness of creating meaningful rituals, to the spiritual fulfillment some derive from the union. We unravel why the paperwork and legal requisites sometimes feel distant from the love shared between two people. This will be a crucial discussion for anyone considering tying the knot and seeking to understand the nitty-gritty of marriage.

Ever wonder why nurturing adult friendships often feels like threading a needle in the dark? Or why creating meaningful connections after your thirties seems nearly impossible? Join us as we dive deep into the world of adult friendships. Equipped with wisdom and experience, we discuss the trials and triumphs of maintaining friendships as adults. Discover the importance of being intentional in your relationships and learn how to navigate the challenge of connecting in a post-pandemic world. Remember, it's not just about being friends, it's about creating a sense of belonging, authenticity, and love.

But what truly makes a friendship tick? It's all about balance, active listening and respecting boundaries. We also tackle the uncomfortable but necessary topic of addressing hurt feelings within a friendship, equipping you with the tools to communicate effectively and compassionally. Remember, it’s not only about being a friend but also about being a beacon of support, comfort, and understanding. So, are you ready to transform your friendships into your own love goals? Let's embark on this journey together. Tune in, listen, learn, and let's be better friends.

Ever wonder how self-accountability plays a critical role in your relationships? Brace yourselves for a candid conversation with Tiffany, who takes us through her transformative journey of embracing self-accountability in her relationship with Moe Ari. She paints a vivid picture of her initial resistance to individual therapy, a humorous expectation that the couple's therapy would only address her partner's issues, and her eventual realization of the impact of her personal history on her current relationship. This episode is a treasure trove of insights, as Tiffany unveils how individual therapy has shaped her understanding of self-accountability.

Further, we delve into how self-accountability forms the bedrock of healthy relationships. It's all about taking responsibility for your own feelings and emotions, and Tiffany's experience brings this to light with a dash of humor and a boatload of wisdom. Learn how intentional communication and active listening are not just buzz words, but essential tools for self-growth. We also underscore the importance of therapists who are capable of understanding and celebrating queer couples and their core relationships. By the end of this episode, Tiffany's journey of self-accountability may inspire you to evaluate and enhance your own.

We've all been there: Love lost, hearts shattered, and the daunting task of picking up the pieces while still nurturing the love that never really vanishes. Join us, Moe Ari, and Tiffany, as we come together to discuss the challenging yet necessary journey of moving on from exes. Drawing from personal experiences, we aim to shed light on the enduring nature of love after a relationship ends, reminding you that love doesn't disappear, it simply transforms.

As we navigate this emotional landscape, we'll also touch upon the spiritual aspects of love and how this influences the dynamics of our relationships. We unravel the intertwined relationship between love and grief, emphasizing the need to fully experience the pain in order to move past it. To wrap it up, we share practical tips and tools on how to respectfully honor past relationships and open up to the possibility of loving again. Get ready to explore the complexities of love, grief, and the courage it takes to move on in this deeply personal episode.

What if the very idea of being a 'good' partner is flawed? Maybe we should be focusing on just being a partner, without the moral judgment. In this candid conversation, we strip down the concept of 'love goals', reminding you that they are individual to each person and that it's crucial to share a similar understanding of these goals with your partner. We question the universal blueprint of partnership because, let’s face it, love is a complex dance and we’re all learning the steps together.

Communication - it's the lifeblood of any relationship, yet it's often the most challenging part. We share insights on how to navigate this intricate dance, emphasizing self-awareness, mindfulness, and recognizing patterns within a relationship. How can we be vulnerable yet assertive? How do we actively listen, without assuming what isn't being said? We also tackle the polarizing debate between long-term love and immediate commitment, with a lively discussion on love versus marriage. Listen in to our exploration of how to stay connected and committed to your partner on this fascinating journey called love.

Ever been on a date that felt more like a job interview? Or found yourself constantly distracted by your phone instead of focusing on the person across from you? These are just some of the dating pitfalls we're dissecting in today's chat, with a healthy dose of humor and some hard-hitting truths about the ways we connect (and sometimes disconnect) in the quest for love.

We kick things off by reminiscing about our own dating experiences and the valuable lessons that they've taught us. From college date faux pas to intentional and romantic married life, we share candid insights into the highs and lows of dating. Throughout the conversation, we highlight the importance of friendships as the bedrock of strong relationships, and why giving yourself the time to truly know someone can make all the difference in establishing meaningful connections.

So, if you're tired of the same old dating advice and ready for a fresh perspective, join us for a lively, honest, and possibly life-altering conversation. Clear your calendars, put away your phones, and let's dive in!

When Tiffany turned 28, a mere five days after the birth of her daughter Nova, she was overwhelmed with a whirlwind of emotions. Her birthday was marked by the joy of welcoming a new life and the challenges of dealing with Nova's premature birth and jaundice. Journey with us, Moe Ari Ari, and Tiffany, as we navigate the highs and lows of parenthood, sharing our raw and honest experiences.

In the throes of sleep deprivation and postpartum emotions, we underline the importance of creating a support system and maintaining a work-life balance. Listen in as we share practical advice on preserving intimacy and marital satisfaction while caring for a newborn. We explore the delicate balance of creating a nurturing environment for the baby, scheduling, and planning. We also touch on the significance of professional help during this period, helping you understand the value of a community that shares postpartum experiences and supports each other.

Parenthood drastically changes relationships, and we delve into the depths of relationship satisfaction postpartum. We discuss the complex dynamics of transitioning relationships, setting boundaries, and understanding different co-parenting relationships that emerge due to parenthood. Join us as we conclude with a stimulating challenge: Would you rather have seven kids or none? We invite you to join this journey as we strive to be our #LoveGoals.

Listen in as we navigate the often tricky waters of triggers in relationships and explore how we can be accountable when they arise. Drawing from Moe’s personal experiences and professional background as a licensed marriage and family therapist, we discuss how understanding and naming our triggers can help us better manage them and how therapy can be a powerful tool in our journey toward healing. From an intimate recounting of Moe’s trigger experiences to the importance of self-awareness, this episode aims to offer insight into managing your triggers in a relationship setting.

Join us as we delve further into understanding trauma, discussing its various manifestations and how it can individualize based on the person. We discuss coping strategies, the role of self-awareness exercises, and how to recognize patterns in our responses. This episode offers a heartfelt and insightful conversation, from a moving discussion about managing triggers in romantic relationships to a deeper look into traumas, triggers, and coping strategies. Whether seeking to understand your triggers better or learn how to support a partner, this episode is a must-listen.

Have you ever wondered how to know when you've met “the one"? In this episode of Be Your Own Love Goals, Moe Ari and Tiffany demystify the process of find “the one” while sharing advice from their decade-long partnership.

Key Takeaways:

- Vulnerability is crucial in relationships: Allowing yourself to be vulnerable can open doors to deeper connections and love. It's a way of showing trust and inviting your partner to do the same.

- The 'One' is not a person, but a choice: Love is a journey, and choosing to commit to someone every day makes them the 'one'.

- Past love remains powerful: If a past relationship was filled with genuine love and connection, it remains meaningful even if that person is no longer in your life.

Ready to challenge your perceptions of vulnerability? Prepare yourself for a deep dive into its multifaceted nature in relationships as we share personal anecdotes and discuss the influence of societal norms and individual experiences. This episode is imbued with wisdom from Brene Brown, who redefined vulnerability as a feeling during times of uncertainty, risk, or emotional exposure and we'll explore how that has reframed our understanding of the concept.

We're going to break down biases against emotional expression and equip you with practical tools to foster vulnerability and self-compassion in your relationships. One of these tools is the "Touch and Agree" exercise, a simple yet powerful way to connect with your partner. Furthermore, we underscore the importance of courage in daring to be vulnerable, drawing on Brown's belief that courage is about speaking one's mind by telling the entirety of one's heart. This episode will embolden you to express yourself authentically and fearlessly, and to embrace vulnerability as strength rather than weakness. So, are you ready to change your perspective?

Join us, Moe Ari and Tiffany, as we embark on an exploration of commitment in relationships. This is a topic we all can relate to, and one that many of our friends and family have asked us about. Listen in as we share our insights on knowing when you're ready to take things to the next level, be it moving in together, getting married, or even deciding to have a child. We reflect on our personal experiences, underscoring the importance of experiencing different seasons with a person and navigating the highs and lows together.

The conversation doesn't stop there, as we also discuss the often overlooked aspect of understanding and navigating our partner's emotions. The significance of observing your partner in different emotional states, asking them questions, and understanding their emotional responses is critical. We also delve into the ethical considerations in this exploration and discuss the alignment required within ourselves before making deeper commitments. Our journey has taught us that it's not just about finding the right person, but also being ready to face life's challenges together. So, tune in to gain a fresh perspective on commitment in relationships.

Ever walked into the digital battlefield of social media in a relationship and felt like you're navigating a minefield? That's what we're parsing through in today's episode. We're breaking down the complexities of social media in relationships - how to use it as a tool to foster connections and yet set boundaries that protect your own mental health and relationship's wellbeing.

Amid the conundrum of when to pick up your phone and when to put it down, especially when in a relationship, we share some thoughtful strategies. We delve into the importance of authenticity in our online interactions and the fine art of expressing our genuine feelings without oversharing private issues. Moreover, we underline the significance of mutual understanding when it comes to sharing sensitive information online.

Our conversation also transcends to the aspect of setting boundaries on social media while in a relationship. We share some practical, hands-on advice on how to strike a balance between being open and being respectful and considerate. From handling the impact of intrusive people online to taking intentional breaks from social media, we've got you covered. Tune in to gain valuable insights, useful tools, and potentially some newfound wisdom for navigating social media and relationships more effectively.

Ready to rethink conflict resolution in relationships? Moe Ari and Tiffany are here to guide you on a transformative journey in this latest episode of 'Be Your Own Love Goals'. We're peeling back the layers of communication, understanding, and overcoming defensiveness. As we share our personal anecdotes, we’ll laugh about our mistakes and highlight the importance of these conversations in fostering healthier, more meaningful bonds.

We move from conflict resolution to the impact of familial communication patterns on relationships. It's not always easy to break away from our inherited habits, but we're here to talk about the tools and mindsets that have helped us do just that. From understanding body language to using humor as an ice-breaker, we'll offer insights on avoiding common misunderstandings and holding grudges that can hold your relationship back.

Rounding off the episode, we pivot to a topic often overlooked in relationship discussions - self-love. We preach about the power of affirmations and setting healthy boundaries. Self-care isn't selfish, it's essential, and we'll give you the tools to cultivate it in your relationships. So come, take this journey of self-discovery and transformation with us, and let's become our own love goals.

Have you ever wondered how gender transition affects relationships? We're taking you on a heartfelt journey today, one that mirrors our own experiences as we navigated the delicate intricacies of gender transition. This dynamic journey not only touches the person transitioning but also those who surround them, and understanding this perspective is a path we'll walk together in this insightful episode. We start off honoring the sheer courage of a listener navigating their gender transition, and the acceptance hurdles they face from a loved one. We want to assure you that we stand by you, sharing from our personal experiences and emphasizing how crucial it is to honor your unique journey.

As we delve deeper, we explore how gender transition can shift the dynamics in relationships. Through the lens of our listener's story, we underscore the significance of a solid support network during this transformative period. Bear witness to the subtle changes that ensue within relationships during transition and how they influence mutual interactions. The episode culminates with a high note encouraging all of us to introspect, understand our own fears and biases, and recognize the importance of seeing beyond the physical body in relationships. We hope this episode leaves you with a deeper understanding and a more open heart towards those navigating their gender transition journey.

Isn't it curious how society tends to prioritize success over pleasure and joy?In this episode of the Be Your Own Love Goals Podcast, we dissect this paradox, discussing how putting pleasure and joy on the backburner can often lead to sex being side-lined in relationships. We passionately argue for the prioritization of sex and pleasure in relationships, and we invite you to join us as we explore ways to intentionally create space and time for sex. Hear our insights on how to honor our own pleasure and joy while cultivating intimacy. This thought-provoking conversation will leave you reflecting on the multifaceted role sex plays in relationships, including its deeply spiritual aspects. Join us on this journey!

Have long-term relationships sentenced you to a life of monotony? From the honeymoon stage to a decade into marriage, we're taking a hard look at long-term relationships in this episode. Embarking on this adventure together, we've discovered that the secret to a vibrant relationship is more than just shared interests and compatibility. It's about being intentional in our choices, our conversations, and our moments of connection. Even in the monotony of daily routines, especially during parenthood, there's a unique joy that can be found, and it's this joy that keeps our relationship from becoming mundane.

Let's face it, expectations can often dampen the fun in relationships and lead to boredom. As we grow and evolve, we've realized the need to shift our expectations and live in the now. We discuss how being present in every moment can be a game changer. It's not just about accepting changes, it's about embracing them, using them to invigorate the relationship and make it exciting again. We challenge the myth that marriage or parenthood equates to a dull life. It's time we redefine what fun means in our present circumstances, instead of comparing it to our past. So join us, as we journey to become our own #lovegoals!

Get ready to venture into relationships as we redefine the honeymoon phase. We promise an insightful journey to help you comprehend, maintain, and revisit this blissful time. We're not just going to discuss the honeymoon phase but challenge its common misconceptions and explore how it varies from couple to couple. We provoke thought about whether this is an ending or a transition, offering a fresh perspective on this relationship evolution.

We'll delve into the significant aspect of keeping the honeymoon phase alive, emphasizing maintaining a balance between presence and skepticism. We'll share how a strong foundation of friendship is a cornerstone and the importance of continuously co-creating a cushion of bliss with your partner. We guide you through any uncharted waters in the relationship and advise you on managing the inevitable disappointment of reality. The importance of revisiting the honeymoon phase to keep the relationship fresh and exciting is also highlighted. Let's embark on this enlightening journey together, as we redefine love and relationships!

Have you ever found yourself struggling to navigate a new relationship, all the while carrying the weight of past experiences? Join Moe Ari, Tiffany, and me as we dive deep into this challenge and discuss how our past relationships can still affect us, even if we're unaware. We also talk about how to prevent our past experiences from impacting our present relationships and offer advice on how to take the leap and begin the healing and growing process.

Do your reactions to your exes and other relationships have a deeper meaning? In this heartfelt episode, we explore how our previous relationships can form triggers and vulnerabilities that can affect our current relationships and how exploring these triggers can help us understand and heal from our past experiences. We also reflect on the idea that our exes may be mirrors, helping us learn from our past relationships, and discuss the importance of being honest with ourselves and others. Listen in as we share how reflecting on our past can better prepare us for the relationships we have in the future.

What if we told you that the key to co-creating relationships without disappointment lies in shifting from expectations to intentionality? We're diving into a powerful discussion on how to shift from expectations to intentionality when it comes to creating fulfilling connections. We'll explore the space between our dreams and reality, and how this potential-filled space can be harnessed to co-create the relationships we truly desire.

Join us as we discuss the importance of self-awareness and setting realistic standards for ourselves in relationships. We'll share insights on identifying whether your standards are rooted in fantasy or possibility, and help you navigate the tricky waters of determining when to stay rigid or be more flexible with your expectations. Remember to ask yourself "why" each step of the way to maintain a meaningful connection with your partner.

We also touch on the significance of going beyond appearances when selecting potential partners, prioritizing qualities such as compassion, empathy, sincerity, and commitment. We'll discuss the power of intention and spiritual growth in attracting the right person for you, as well as the importance of self-love, self-care, and boundaries in relationships. So sit back, relax, and let's co-create the relationships of our dreams together!

Have you ever wondered if love alone is enough to sustain a healthy, happy relationship? Join us, Moe Ari and Tiffany, as we share our personal experiences and the life-changing realization that friendship is just as crucial as love in our partnership. In this heartfelt conversation, we open up about our own challenges and the powerful lessons we've learned on our journey to becoming our own #lovegoals.

This episode takes you through an emotional and vulnerable discussion about the importance of not only loving, but genuinely liking your partner. We reveal our own moments of growth and transformation, and how our connection has enabled us to become better individuals and a stronger couple. Listen in as we express our gratitude for the friendship and bond we've built, and discover the true meaning of love and friendship in a partnership that will inspire you to evaluate and cherish your own relationships.

In this thought-provoking episode, we tackle the difficult question of defining cheating in a relationship and how to set healthy boundaries. We discuss the concept of monogamy and how it has changed over the past 50-60 years, encouraging listeners to consider monogamy not as something restrictive but as something expansive. Join us as we explore the idea of creating a monogam-ish relationship, one that respects the values of monogamy while also allowing for emotional investment with others. We challenge you to look at cheating from a place that isn’t based on limits, jealousy, and control.

Listen in as we explore how to create a relationship agreement that works for both partners and how to sustain it over time. We emphasize the importance of communicating expectations and understanding the different definitions of cheating. We also discuss the evolution of relationships as culture changes, and how non-monogamous and polyamorous relationships still require intentional conversations and agreements. Don't miss our insights on the nuances of having conversations around cheating, the importance of setting standards and boundaries, and the need to be honest and vulnerable with ourselves and our partners about our feelings and desires.

We've all struggled to stand up for ourselves, our love, and our relationships when faced with disapproval from our families. This episode is close to our hearts as we, Moe Ari and Tiffany, share our journey of defying expectations and overcoming family disapproval in our relationship. We discuss the pain of feeling like a secret in our family and how that can lead to a sense of invisibility within relationships. We reflect on the need to protect ourselves, both from potential negativity and from the process of hiding a relationship and offer encouragement to anyone who is struggling with acceptance from their family.

Living authentically and true to ourselves is vital in any relationship, and we delve into the importance of showing who we are, even when faced with disapproval. Understand the power of declaring our identity and intentions to those around us and how it can create space for mutual understanding and respect. We also address how to navigate expectations and patterns that often accompany relationships and the importance of trusting ourselves to make the right choices for our own lives. Join us for this heartfelt and empowering conversation, and discover how you can defy expectations and honor your relationships with strength, courage, and love.

Why is it so challenging to discuss sex openly, even when it's an essential and enjoyable part of our lives? Listen as Moe Ari and Tiffany explore the nervousness surrounding the topic of sex and how opening up about our experiences can lead to deeper connections and enhanced pleasure.

Have you ever considered how the history of African Americans and their relationship with money might affect your own financial mindset? Join us in a powerful conversation where we explore the impact of intergenerational relationships on our sense of self and the opportunities that arise from entrepreneurship and ownership over our work.

In this heartfelt discussion, we explore the importance of being intentional about the people surrounding our relationships. We share a relatable scenario where a woman confides in her best friend and family about a difficult time with her wife. The question we ask is, who can provide wise counsel and hold both sides of the narrative without holding it against the person? Listen in as we reflect on our own experiences and the significance of confiding in someone who truly supports our relationships.

Do you ever feel like you're not getting your needs met in your relationship? You're not alone. Many people struggle with this, but it doesn't have to be this way. In this episode, we'll talk about how to meet your own needs in a relationship so that you can feel happy and fulfilled. We'll cover topics like identifying your needs, communicating them to your partner, and setting boundaries. So whether you're in a new relationship or you've been together for years, this episode is for you. Stay tuned!

After a decade of being in a relationship, Moe Ari and Tiffany have realized that you have to be all in and willing to do something different, if you want to be intentional about changing the arguing and the challenges that can come along with communication. For years, they had the same topics come up on repeat. They kept thinking they would resolve them only for them to crop up again. The common denominator was not the topic. It was them and how they were showing up to the conversations. Listen as the two guide you toward greater awareness and self-reflection in their own journey so that you may approach disagreement from a team-oriented spirit as well.

With each new generation, more and more people identify as gender expansive, freeing us from binary notions of gender that polarize our romantic relationships. Is there a way to bring harmony to your relationship beyond binary gender roles? Did binary gender roles ever work? How can we think about masculine and feminine in new ways? Listen as Moe Ari and Tiffany explore these questions and so much more!

Many couples, especially those a part of the LGBTQ community often have challenges as it relates to blending families as a result of “coming out”. In this episode Moe Ari and Tiffany go deep into what it means to love out proud, inviting their family and friends in, and the healing power of love. Listen as they discuss how they have been able to work through varying family dynamics as they navigated “coming out” and inviting others in.

We’ve all have heard that traditional line in marriage vows that says “love, honor, and obey.” It stirs up a lot of discomfort in this generation and leaves most people wondering about expectations around power in relationships. Moe Ari and Tiffany dive deep into this conversation with their take on what submission means, how to balance power differentials in relationships, and how to be in a healthy committed long-term partnership. Listen to your favorite millennial married co-hosts as they talk about the experiences they’ve had, some painful, around the topic of submission.

Increased responsibilities at work or starting a family can directly correlate to an imbalance in work-life balance. Moe Ari and Tiffany discuss how they are navigating being new parents, working, and everything in between.

There are many traditions from our family of origin that we want to keep around, but there are some that have to be reworked. Moe Ari and Tiffany discuss how they have learned to co-create their own traditions and how they invite their families in.

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but you don’t have to be in crisis to go to couple’s therapy. Listen as Moe Ari, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and Tiffany discuss their experiences in couples therapy and debunking some of the stigma around going to therapy as a couple.

Being in a long distance relationship can be challenging, but can work with a lot of intentionality. After starting their relationship living quite literally nearly 1000 miles apart, Moe Ari and Tiffany discuss how they made it work for the first 3 years of their relationship.

When should we have the relationship conversation? Who should initiate it? Moe Ari and Tiffany explore this in detail during the latest episode of the #LoveGoals podcast. Listen as the duo gives their advice on how to be vulnerable in communication, thoughts on how gender influences our assertiveness in relationships, and more!

We all come to relationships with expectations, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that those things are co-created. Moe Ari and Tiffany discuss some of the expectations they had coming to the relationship and even at the start of their marriage as well as their journey to co-creating intentional relationship standards.

Is it okay to keep secrets in a relationship? Moe Ari and Tiffany explore the potential risks and benefits to keeping some things to yourself in a romantic relationship. Listen as they get personal about how they navigate when and how to divulge the details of challenging information.

In this introductory trailer, Moe Ari and Tiffany sit down in the studio to share more about why they created the #lovegoals podcast and what inspires them in their decade-long relationship.